I was too, by two parenting pins involving both.
Let’s start with the glitter. This pin showcases a glitter jar/bottle to use during time outs.
You simply shake the jar to get a nice glitter flurry. Your child watches the glitter until it falls…
to the bottom.
This can help soothe them if they’re throwing a tantrum and also lets them know when time out is up.
I timed how long it took for the glitter to fall in our bottle, and it was only a couple of minutes.
We haven’t used it too many times for time outs yet, but I’ve used it to help my children sit still during family scripture reading time. Seriously, it works like a dream. I really need to make a second one so they don’t fight over who gets to hold the bottle.
Will the novelty wear off…probably. But for now, it’s a positive tactic to help my kids manage their feelings…and jitters, a little better.
For the recipe/tutorial go here. She uses a glass jar. I felt safer using this recycled water bottle and hot gluing the lid to the top. Either way, it works.
Second, blue slips.
This is what the pin says:
“Make a homemade “Correction” can and fill it with tickets or slips of paper with various consequences written on them. Instead of giving your child a time-out, send her to the can for a slip. A few ideas might include no TV or computer for a night, early bedtime, or an extra chore. Toss in a blank piece of paper, a “mercy” ticket. This gives you an opportunity to talk about how God gives us mercy even when we deserve punishment. ”
I thought it was a fine idea, so I printed a list of chores on blue paper, cut them into slips, and added them to a mason jar.
My kids thought it was great too, until they got their first blue slip. 🙂
Our jar is exclusively filled with simple chores right now. (Do you not love how Reid is “reading” his slip upside down?..ha ha).
I wanted the chores to be simple enough that they could do them independently and in about 10 minutes or less. It gives just enough time to help them think about what they did, and just enough distraction to give them an outlet for their emotions, and help them reroute their behavior.
The times that the jar seems to be the most effective is when the boys are fighting. They each get a slip and have a job to do apart from each other. They can’t fight and they get a break from the heated situation. If one of the boys gets a mercy slip while the other one doesn’t (which has already happened), the child with the mercy slip has to find a quiet activity to do away from the child completing a chore.
Let me tell you. My house is going to be CLEAN! 🙂 But that’s not the only reason I’m excited for this new method.
It helps me to have a go to reaction when things get chaotic, so I don’t lose it. The boys get a constructive way to vent their anger as well…well most of the time. We’ve had some moments of resistance, but then they just get another blue slip. All other activities stop until all outstanding blue slip chores are completed. So if the natural consequence of laying on the floor in despair instead of doing your chores, means that you miss watching a movie with the rest of the family, so be it. 😉
As you can probably tell, I really like the pins this week. Will these methods stick long term? That has yet to be determined. I’ve cycled through lots of different discipline methods over the last 7 1/2 years, so I can’t be certain. But I’m hopeful the glitter and blue slips will work.
Have you tried either of these parenting tactics as well? What other creative methods have you used that you would like to share?
I would love to hear from you.
Thanks for reading! Have a great weekend!